My name is Sheila and I have been a community member of DTP-Leadership for 5 years. I am 40 years old and work as a licensed professional counselor for a non-profit agency. I remember learning about this group through a good friend of mine, and at the time I did not know what to expect from the experience. I felt unsure and doubtful when I started attending the weekly sessions, not knowing about the intense learning and emotional growth that was soon to follow!
Since August 2005, I have participated in an amazing and worthwhile group experience filled with enthusiasm, excitement and passion. Prior to my joining the group process of DTP-Leadership, I was a more depressed, stressed and anxious person. I felt doubtful about speaking up in my relationships. I did not know how to manage and express my feelings. I had distorted beliefs about myself and others, and thought that things needed to be a certain way. I did not know about my own addictive processes and how I was harming myself and others. I was self-abusive and often would punish myself with destructive tirades in my head. Some of my personal and professional relationships were quite strained, and I had more anger and resentment in my life. I blamed others and could not see how I was impacting events in my life.
Since becoming a member of DTP-Leadership, my work relationships with co-workers and clients have improved. I now let go of what is outside of my power. I speak up honestly to others without worrying about “hurting their feelings.” My relationships with others flow smoothly without my trying to assume their thoughts and feelings in interactions with me. I outwardly show my appreciation and thankfulness. I feel less fearful and shy in my relationships as well. I set healthy limits with myself in how long I work during an average work day, as well as how hard I work while I am there. I say “no” to others without feeling guilty or having to make up for my response later. And, I have increased confidence in myself. I feel comfortable being myself and expressing myself around others. I have meaningful and rich experiences with others and feel grateful for the parts of my life that bring me joy.
As I reflect on some of my past behavior and beliefs, I feel sad about how much time and energy I invested in destructive patterns and motives. I carried my worn-out belief systems for years without knowing the harmful impact on myself and my significant relationships. I now realize my world is open to healthier decision-making. I support myself and others in being happy and successful. I can proudly say I have acquired new awarenesses and skills that have increased my general well-being and outlook. I feel thankful and appreciative for having the opportunity to participate in such a dynamic environment.